Everybody has sexual fantasies. Maybe it’s a fetish; maybe it’s a kinky roleplaying scenario. However, surveys found that most men actually have pretty simple, straightforward erotic wish lists. (Not surprisingly, “More blowjobs!” tops the list.) Here are some of the most common male fantasies.
1. A woman who takes charge in bed
There’s just something arousing about a confident woman who isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants and tell you where she wants it.
That’s why many men like booking the female domme, or if they’re not ready for the BDSM scene, request a PSE (porn star experience) where they can sit back and be enthusiastically pleasured. Many popular roleplaying scenarios involve meeting a horny nurse or hitchhiker who just can’t control their attraction — and wild libido.
“It can be tiresome to always feel like the pursuer. Feeling pursued can be a very sexy change, and it can also be a huge ego boost,” says Laura Berman, LCSW, Ph.D., a sex expert and author of “Loving Sex: The Book of Joy and Passion.”
2. Oral…and a CIM
A survey conducted by the University of Washington in Seattle among 100,000 men who were either married or in long-term, committed relationships found that they were most frustrated by their partner’s lack of interest in oral sex. Either they didn’t get it enough, or the blowjobs (BJs) were too short or given very reluctantly.
It’s no surprise, then, that BJs, deepthroat, and CIM (come in mouth) rank high in the list of male sexual fantasies. And when you meet a private escort who not only gives oral well but with gusto, then… fantasy fulfilled!
The only thing better than being with one sexy, beautiful woman is to be with two of them. Fantasies of threesomes include being pleasured by them at the same time — double the fun! — or watching girl-on-girl action before jumping in and, er, contributing to the conversation.
Single men can book doubles with genuine bisexual escorts. But even happily committed men can convince a partner to try a threesome for just one night. There are many private escorts who are happy to entertain couples — who knows, this may fulfill your lady’s secret fantasy of doing it with a girl!
4. Anal Sex
Men’s magazine editors say they often get reader queries like, “How do I get my girlfriend to like anal sex?”
While the magazines do publish articles on the joys of going Greek, the fact is that not all women find this pleasurable. Some private escorts do offer anal, though they may require additional fees, and should be discussed beforehand. It’s not something you can pull from behind (pun not intended).
There are some men who enjoy women pleasuring other women, or even watching their significant other do it with another partner. It’s the thrill of walking into a secret, or the pleasurable pain of being aroused but not immediately or directly satisfied. Dr. Kerner, a sex researcher, says that this is also one reason why men watch porn.
However, too much porn can lead to a sense of isolation. “Men are experiencing their fantasies by watching them instead of sharing them or role-playing,” he explained. Perhaps an emotionally healthier alternative: playing out a roleplaying scenario with a private escort, either through doubles or a couples booking.